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Do
major joy-making moments leave you feeling unexpectedly blue? You
may be suffering from a ... HAPPINESS HANGOVER
You may not even realize how attached you've become; the buildup
to a major event, whether two weeks or two years, can be so intense
that it starts to feel second nature to identify yourself as the
"bride-to-be" or the "newly promoted." The result
is an overwhelming feeling of emptiness when the wedding has passed
or the title has lost its luster.
That's
your cue to acknowledge that you - and the choices you made - were
the driving force behind your success. "People think, 'the
experience made me feel good', not, 'my hard work created those
feelings'", says psychologist Bill Crawford, Ph.D.,
author of All Stressed Up & Nowhere to Go! (Florence).
It's easy to see how, with that mindset, once the rush of being
promoted is gone or the glory of winning your first road race fades,
you start to believe you're on a downhill slide. " Instead
of thinking, 'Wow, that was the best time of my life, and now what?'",
you need to think, "I am an adventurous person that makes experiences
like that happen," Crawford says. You did it once - you can
do it again.
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